We all realize that the bride and groom are the focal points of this very special day. The wedding and its celebration are milestones in individual lives and family memories. It is a significant social and personal event that deserves the attention given it.
But what many of us have learned is that the weddings that are most remembered are those which consider the family and friends who will be joining the couple in celebrating the event.
Here are some ways brides and grooms can focus on guests and family.
- Remember to treat attendants like the friends they are – not servants. They are expending time and treasure to celebrate with you. Certainly they are there to support your wishes, but not to grant your every whim. Consideration and gratitude are welcome gifts to wedding party participants.
- When you are developing your gift registries, remember to include items for all price ranges. Friends and family members want to give you as nice a gift as they can. Spend some time making thoughtful choices.
- Select reception food that most guests will enjoy. If you are planning an ethnic specialty, be sure to include an alternative. Not every guest will welcome unfamiliar food.
- If music is to be played during cocktails and/or dinner, make sure it is background music soft enough so that people can hear themselves and others talk.
- If you are having a wedding dance, make sure that the band plays some “golden oldies” so that parents and/or grandparents and their friends can dance too.
- Don’t micro manage everything. Once plans are in place let vendors you’ve hired do what you hired them to do.
- For everyone’s sake, try to limit the time delay between the end of the ceremony and the start of the reception to one hour or less. If it must be longer, arrange something for the guests to do while they are awaiting your arrival. No one wants to go home and come back again.